What Lies Beneath...

The truth is… the truth can hurt. A lie can soothe. A lie can hide and sometimes even save.

We all do it at some point don’t we? A little fib, an inconsequential lie, a lie to protect and shield, a lie to encourage, a lie to save. And we do tell ourselves that some lies are very necessary. If I hadn’t lied to her, she would have been very hurt. If I hadn’t lied to him, he would think I didn’t care about him. If I hadn’t lied our family would have been torn apart.

And let’s face it, sometimes the truth hurts. Sometimes the truth destroys and damages and sometimes it just messes everything up that a lie could have patched up with ease, so long as the truth wasn’t around to ruin things.

And yet, every lie, no matter how noble, can be insidious by nature. Lies are eventually exposed and can cause far more damage than the truth ever would have. Too many questions were asked and you panicked or you got irritated and you lied. And it seemed easier to lie because the truth would have driven her away and you know that is not what either one of you needs. She needs you just as much as you need her and so you lie to keep her. You meant well in lying, you lied for the good of the situation.

But beloved, the road to a broken heart is paved with well intentioned lies. Those lies that were meant to protect… Or perhaps lies that you wanted to hide behind because facing the truth meant you had to accept you were wrong. She knew all along and yet you believed if you lied often enough that eventually doubt would set in and she would believe your lies one day. And you could keep her where you wanted her to be. Not in your heart as one does who cares about someone, but in your pocket. Convenient. Close enough. And besides, she understands. She always understood. That is why you always kept her.

Lies can be comforting, I don’t contest that. Lies can cover up a wound perhaps. But only the truth heals it even if it seems to destroy, in the eternity of everything it will heal. The truth holds a freedom a lie can never hope to have. And sometimes freedom means loss. Sometimes you have to look beyond yourself and see that your lies are destroying another. And though they put up with it, they know the truth very early on. And though some may take a while to accept it, they know it. A heart is attuned to these things in ways you may never understand. And the truth is women lie too. And men hurt too. And all because of lies that no matter how necessary or important they seem to be at the time, they are borne of destruction and will eventually live up to their nature.

The truth about lies is…… well….. lies deceive. Funny isn’t it? And they typically deceive the liar.

And the more you lie, the further away the one you are lying to becomes from you. Wouldn’t it be nobler to lose them in truth than keep them in lies? But believe me; you are going to lose them anyway. The lies will not hide forever. I guarantee that much to you.

So when he or she asks you for the truth, no matter how it may hurt, oblige them.