Wednesday, November 30
Again
He's here. In the Library. Again. The guy i was stunned by last night, the hottie in the green sweater. And he's at the group of computers i was at yesterday. My usual group. But they are all occupied so i am at the next station behind him. With my back to him. Dammit! But he is still gorgeous and i just had to stop my paper once more and make note of it. He's so cute. Ok back to my research paper. Dammit he's fwine. Ok, stop.
One Week
I go home for five weeks in about a week. Granted between me and then are horrid horrid finals...but after that i get to get away.
Lenny Kravitz is a sex bomb. Love the video with him and Diddy and Pharell. He's so hot. Random thought.
Lenny Kravitz is a sex bomb. Love the video with him and Diddy and Pharell. He's so hot. Random thought.
Being A Black Woman
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could> never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has. BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could> never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has. BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
Monday, November 28
sugar day dreams
I just saw the most beautiful black man i have come across here in Texas. I had started giving up on Texas but i was walking back from the printer station in the library to my computer when i looked up and at a computer maybe a hundred feet from mine is this gorgeous creature. He looked up at me as i passed by and i nearly fell over. He had papers in his mouth and only glanced up probably because he felt my eyes on him.
He is wearing a green and grey or something (i wasn't reeibly concerned with the exact colours of his clothes when i saw him) turtleneck sweater, looks tall and is a few shades lighter than me. Pretty eyes. I am back at my computer (duh. obviously i can't be writing this telepathically from my head. i'm so redundant.) I can see his back if i lean far to the right. He is so fine. So fine infact that i felt i had to stop writing my paper and dedicate an entire post to this beautiful boy.
How much do i wish that beautiful boy was my beautiful boy? Or at least would talk to me? A lot. That's how much. Alas. Let me get back to my studies. There is a group of men around me (God knows what they're doing huddled back there speaking in some foreign tongue) and i think one or two of them may be smelling of an overpowering....well it's making me lightheaded in any case. Ok, back to work. Oh that boy is yummy! Ok stop.
He is wearing a green and grey or something (i wasn't reeibly concerned with the exact colours of his clothes when i saw him) turtleneck sweater, looks tall and is a few shades lighter than me. Pretty eyes. I am back at my computer (duh. obviously i can't be writing this telepathically from my head. i'm so redundant.) I can see his back if i lean far to the right. He is so fine. So fine infact that i felt i had to stop writing my paper and dedicate an entire post to this beautiful boy.
How much do i wish that beautiful boy was my beautiful boy? Or at least would talk to me? A lot. That's how much. Alas. Let me get back to my studies. There is a group of men around me (God knows what they're doing huddled back there speaking in some foreign tongue) and i think one or two of them may be smelling of an overpowering....well it's making me lightheaded in any case. Ok, back to work. Oh that boy is yummy! Ok stop.
Monday, November 14
Gay is the new Diamond
They say a gay man is a girl's best friend. Bump the diamonds! Actually....actually leave the diamonds and just add the gay guy and you have a happy girl.
I was just chatting to my roommate about my gay boy toy. Otherwise known to the masses as the Whore of Babylon. It's funny, i'm not white and yet he's still my gay boy toy. How odd.
Yes i have very conflicting views on gay....dom. What's the proper word? Homosexuality? That is such a dorky word, come up with a new one girls. Anyway. I decided that the emphasis stressed on gaydom (it's a word now dammit!) in some of my blog entries highlights it above every other so-called sin and that is so not my stance. At least not right now. I have learned a lot recently. And one of the lessons is that everything that everyone does is relative. Everything is permissable but not everything is beneficial according to the bible. Why spend so much time and energy judging others when your own morality is reeking with the funk of hypocrisy? Why not accept that we are all screwed up and living life the way we know how and no one is really any different than anyone else, and no one really knows any better? Am i wrong for thinking that way? I love Mary. I have never judged him because to me he's my Mary. I dunno why i have taken to calling him Mary but i have. It'll fade.
I realized after talking to my roommate about him.......gushing really........ that i appreciate him in my life more than i know how to put into words. Huh. How funny.
I was just chatting to my roommate about my gay boy toy. Otherwise known to the masses as the Whore of Babylon. It's funny, i'm not white and yet he's still my gay boy toy. How odd.
Yes i have very conflicting views on gay....dom. What's the proper word? Homosexuality? That is such a dorky word, come up with a new one girls. Anyway. I decided that the emphasis stressed on gaydom (it's a word now dammit!) in some of my blog entries highlights it above every other so-called sin and that is so not my stance. At least not right now. I have learned a lot recently. And one of the lessons is that everything that everyone does is relative. Everything is permissable but not everything is beneficial according to the bible. Why spend so much time and energy judging others when your own morality is reeking with the funk of hypocrisy? Why not accept that we are all screwed up and living life the way we know how and no one is really any different than anyone else, and no one really knows any better? Am i wrong for thinking that way? I love Mary. I have never judged him because to me he's my Mary. I dunno why i have taken to calling him Mary but i have. It'll fade.
I realized after talking to my roommate about him.......gushing really........ that i appreciate him in my life more than i know how to put into words. Huh. How funny.
Monday, November 7
I need some money yo
HELP!! I have enough in my bank account to buy half of the dollar menu. I need some money yall! I have to resort to country-isms like 'yall' because i am in dire straits. I dunno how i am gonna make it. HELP ME SOMEONE, I NEED MONEY YO!
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